You Can Love Your Body and Still Want to Change It

I was chatting with one of my amazing clients a few weeks ago, and something she said really stuck with me – so of course, I wanted to share it with you.

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She’s working toward a weight loss goal right now. But she actually found herself feeling guilty about it. Not because she was doing anything wrong, but because she felt like… maybe she shouldn’t want that? That maybe she should just “be happy” where she is and not need to change anything.

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And whew – I felt that in my bones. Because this exact inner conflict comes up so often.

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The All-or-Nothing Trap

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We’ve absorbed a lot of messaging that says it has to be all-or-nothing.

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Either you:
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a) fully love and accept your body as is OR
b) you’re trying to change it, and that means you must not accept it at all.

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But that’s just not true.

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The Truth: Both Can Coexist

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You can be grateful for your body and want to feel better in it.
You can practice self-acceptance and still pursue growth.
You can be comfortable and still want something different.

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Wanting more doesn’t mean you’re not thankful for what you have.

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Why Self-Love Now Matters

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Here’s the other side of that: If we’re not working on neutrality, respect, or some form of self-love now—in the body we’re in today—we won’t automatically find it in a smaller body either.

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Shrinking ourselves doesn’t guarantee peace, confidence, or happiness.

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Those things are built through the way we treat ourselves, not just the results we get.

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That’s why both parts matter.

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Change From a Place of Compassion

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It’s okay to want to make changes.

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And at the same time, it’s just as important to build a relationship with yourself that’s rooted in compassion, not criticism.

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When we stop judging ourselves for what we want, it actually becomes easier to follow through on our choices.

• Less second-guessing.
• Less confusion.
• Less “why am I even doing this?” energy.

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If You’re in That Place Right Now…

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If you want to move more, eat differently, feel stronger—or yes, even lose weight—but you feel like it means you’re somehow betraying your body…

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I want you to know: you’re not.

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There is space for all of it.

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You don’t need permission. But if you’ve been waiting for someone to say it’s okay—this is me, saying it’s okay.

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You’re allowed to want what you want, especially when it comes from a place of self-respect, curiosity, and care.

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Just something to think about today.

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